Female Trouble
Yesterday, I gave this workshop: Female Trouble…and, you know, it wasn’t perfect–there were some tech issues–but, all in all, it was pretty damn good. I had a small, passionately-engaged audience of smart women. Instead of beating myself up for what went wrong, I’m ecstatic about everything that went right, and the inspiring women I met!
Some of you are rolling your eyes and ready to vomit and that’s your issue. I wasted my teenage years chasing perfection in the form of brutal, self-enforced anorexia: barf. I wasted valuable years forbidding myself from having any fun because I wasn’t at my “perfect” weight, so now, the fact that now I can shrug life off, and roll with the punches, is the main reason I’ve made this business successful when I started it with nothing but debt and desperation.
My attitude is the reason I was able to give myself as many “second” chances as necessary to re-make my life over. The first time didn’t work? Okay, guess I’ll try again. I don’t know about you, but a lot of the people I grew up with, are miserable and bored and boring. Sucks to be them, but that’s their choice; when things didn’t work out perfectly, they took it as the universe’s judgment of their desires. Thus, perfectly normal failure became, THE END,instead of something that happens in this life.
(Listen, not to break your heart, but the universe couldn’t care less about you. Failure is failure: shit happens. When I see people thanking Yahweh for their business success, I both want to laugh and cry. Hmm, Jesus cares about your juice business making its monthly financial goals, but when my ancestors in Nazi Germany were being herded into Hitler’s ovens and begged to be saved, what, He was out of earshot? Oh boy.)
Back to my point: there’s a lot of people, in my opinion, who truly don’t like themselves, and are looking for reasons to give up. However, just drifting through life is hard enough. Just finding the courage to get through the day is damn hard enough. Creating the life and circumstances you want is brutally demanding work. If you’re looking for reasons to give up on yourself, you’re not going to have to look very far, you know this.
I’m just saying, despite the tech issues, I’m thrilled I gave yesterday’s workshop! It’s already created some very exciting opportunities, both personally and professionally, for me. Meanwhile, if I had waited for everything in my life to be perfect…welp, I’d be giving that workshop on the 15th of Never-Gonna-Happen. I’d be sitting at home, cursing myself for my cowardice. I’d be boring as hell. If there’s something you’re holding off on doing, because you’re not perfect yet, stop punishing yourself. No you’re not human, you’re something a million times better: you’re human. Forgive yourself and get to work.
