Month: November 2013

Fantasy vs. reality

I would argue that pretty much everything worthwhile in life starts with a fantasy. So, whether you want a committed, loving relationship or you’re dreaming of become a doctor, you begin with a fantasy of what your life could be. Then, some people commit to that fantasy and making it, step-by-step, a reality… and some…
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November 30, 2013 0

Happy Thanksgiving!

I know, I should have posted earlier, but I spent the day cooking with parents–and feeling grateful that they’re still around to share this special time–so yes, this is late. But I am grateful beyond words to all of you who visit this site, and take the time to read my writing and give a…
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November 28, 2013 0

Boring people are boring.

And, I just don’t have the time to be bored. Anyway, recently, someone whom I have, unfortunately, known since childhood sent me a…well, what’s the best way to describe their sad little email? He sent me a semi-pornographic, stream-of-consciousness email rant about all the things he wanted to do to me and what did I think.…
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November 27, 2013 0

The Bad Guys Won…

Fifty years ago today the bad guys won. Fifty years ago today, JFK was murdered. Now, before you suspect that I’ve decided that JFK was our savior due to his having a full head of hair, and my having a vagina: no. I was a history major, so I know allll about how Joe Kennedy, Sr.…
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November 22, 2013 0

Bookworms do it better!

People who tell me they love my writing, and that they want to write make me happy. People who tell me that they love my writing, and that they want to write before admitting that um, they just don’t have the time to read, make me wanna holler. You have time to Instagram approximately 6,345…
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November 21, 2013 0

The Wasted Energy of Being Guilty

I was raised Jewrican, so even as I wrote that headline, another part of my brain was rationalizing, thinking, “…well, I dunno, maybe some guilt is good-” and then I shut down that part of my brain. (I distracted it with some nachos.) Because in my day-to-day life, being self-employed, I have a huge daily…
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November 20, 2013 0

35 Years, 918 Bodies: The Collateral of Jonestown

“There are some people who see a lot of God in my body.”-Jim Jones November, for Americans at least, tends to be synonymous with Thanksgiving. This is the month many of us find it fashionable to talk about all we have to be grateful for, including friends, family and Facebook.  What an ironic time of…
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November 19, 2013 0

Hate Your LinkedIn Profile? Then Shut It Down!

In my coaching business, one of the things I hear most from people—women, especially-are confessions like, “Yeah, Carlota, I’m on LinkedIn…but I hate it. I have no idea what I’m supposed to be doing, and ugh, I hate my profile, it’s boring.” Let’s face it: if you, like many people, are dissatisfied with yourself, and…
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November 18, 2013 0

Interviewing with Empathy

  While I always (…welp. Almost always.) have deep empathy for job-seekers, since it’s such an emotionally-draining position to be in, the more I coach, the more empathy I have for the poor souls who have to conduct these interviews. And this isn’t just because I spend a lot of time doing mock-interviews with clients.…
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November 4, 2013 0