Month: December 2013

Everybody Wants to be Rescued

Below, is a photo of my “foster” cat, Bruce. I’m being disingenuous about the term “foster;” I rescued him from a bad situation and it’s unlikely anyone else will adopt him, given his myriad of issues, plus The Kitten loves him, so basically it’s easier to say he’s my “foster” cat than to give the…
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December 31, 2013 0

New Year’s Resolutions That Actually Work

“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.”-Kierkegaard This is the last weekend of 2013, and I know that right about now a lot of people are making their 2014 New Year’s Resolutions. Bueno. If you want to actually achieve any of those goals, I hope some of those resolutions will…
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December 28, 2013 0

The Contender

This morning I was thinking about Brando’s famous “I coulda been a contender” speech from On the Waterfront, and besides being, of course, simply a master-class of acting, I think one of the reasons it continues to resonate with so many people, is because so many people have had that feeling. The feeling that they…
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December 23, 2013 0


The deeper I get into the business of professional development/nagging/coaching, the more respect I have for people who “get” it, who are actually invested in achieving their goals, and helping themselves, as opposed to punishing themselves, and just generally thwarting themselves and their deepest desires at every step. You may think I’m exaggerating, but alas,…
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December 20, 2013 0

Friends, Old and New

If you’re shopping for Christmas gifts right around now, taking the time to carefully pick out gifts for friends and family that you know will make them glow with pleasure…ask yourself, if you’d spend the same time of attention, care and concentration on achieving your own goals. I’m not just being irritating; it’s a valid…
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December 17, 2013 0

Fashion Sense & Sensibility

Okay, yes, I’ll admit it–I’ve admitted much worse stuff on this site, after all–I read the Soft Surroundings ( catalog, and sometimes I even find pieces I consider ordering, though I usually don’t, since the people behind this brand are seemingly obsessed with tunics, and I’m short,5’6″, so tunics don’t work for me. But this…
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December 15, 2013 0

Location, Location, Location

Ugh, you’re totally right, I haven’t been blogging as often as I need to. Clearly, like many of my scorned ex-boyfriends mutter darkly, amidst the tears, I am a bad person. Actually, I’ve been writing a ton for other websites, and planning big upcoming projects for 2014, so cut me some slack. Also, I’m writing this…
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December 11, 2013 0

Larger Than Life

The death of Nelson Mandela yesterday–95 years old, but really, given the state of our planet and our need for inspiring figures, gone far too soon–reminded me of being a teenager in NYC in 1990 when Mandela came to Harlem, following his release from prison. I remember watching his visit live on TV, with my…
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December 6, 2013 0

What Your Life & Pandora Have in Common

This is going to seem like an advertisement for Pandora®, but I promise it’s not: last time I checked, they don’t send me any cash. It’s more that, while at the gym, I listen to Pandora® on stations such as (sigh) “Pop & Hip Hop Power Workout,” or “Heads Will Roll (A-Trak Remix).”  Before you…
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December 2, 2013 0